Q&A: I am fed up and tired of my Empathy?
Question by Sheri: I am fed up and tired of my Empathy?
I am a guy and i am empathic as hell, i cant help but feel what others feel and i cant detach my self from that.let me give yu a few examples so yu can understand my problem.
For example if i am watching a movie i cant help but feel the emotions of the characters and seeing some injustice or cruelty in a movie or book makes me go berzerk,my blood starts to boil and i feel so helpless that i cant do anything about it.
It has become a joke among my friends that i watch only movies that have a happy ending.that is true i am tired of feeling others emotions,,i get emotional feedback from everything from people and animals,i get sad if someone is sad i get angry if someone is angry,,and i can feel what they are feeling,,i can even hear there thoughts,i can think like them when i am in that state,
I have always been like this since i was born,and this has been a burden like nothing else,and on top of that my friends and everyone i know and evn SOMEWHAT friends have always come to me with there problems,saying i am the best helper and that they feel better after doing what i suggest,,well OFF-COURSE yu do because i cant help it,i start feeling what they feel i start sensing what they are thinking what they are going to do and what they are hiding it takes me a few mintues to X RAY a person and then i am stuck i have to make them feel better so i can feel better 🙁 .but i am never feeling better i am always suffering,my mind is always thinking thinking thinking about how to solve everyone’s problems how to make everyone happy,every single person on the world,thats not possible,,i dont know how others detach themselves form others emotions i just cant imagine how they do it.how can they see someone crying and say ” dont worry everything will be ok ” how do they cross that river of fire and not dive in and be consumed by there saddness how do they stop themselves from feeling what the cryin person is feeling,,how do they not feel an impulse to ease her suffering 🙁 i want to be able to do that.becuase it is getting out of hands i cant watch movies for the fear of suffering through out it if the character suffers,,i cant read a book for the same reasons,,,despite the teasing of my freinds and siblings i have limited my self to disney movies and kids flicks..becuase i am at my wits end…but still its not making it better..the News channels keep barking about the human suffering the bomb explosions children dieing people starving,and i have to suffer,i cant take this anymore i really cant,,Why do i have to go around saving every dog stuck in a barbed wire,,every girl going through a breakup,,why do i have to feel everything the whole world feels,,i wud love to be able to make it all better,,make the world a better place,,but it cant happen,,becuase noone seems to care,,NO ONE,,a few days ago a university proffesor told us a story about how cruel and dishonest our police is and he related a real life story about a ouple who suffered at there hands,,and the professor was smilingand he was telling us tips and tricks on how to get out of that kind of situations an how to use the law for yur advantage,,but he was NOT feeling what the couple went through not a single of my class mates did they were as detached to the suffering in the story as if they dont even give a damn if that happens to someone else,,and i havent been able to sleep for 3 days thinking how i can fix my country and the police so that never happens o anyone else..but this is not what i want,,:( i really want to be at peace with the evil in the world,i am tired i have admitted i cant do anyhting i just want to be detached like evryone else i want to be selfish.please if anyone of yu knows whats wrong with me,,,why do i have t lift the whole world on ym shoulders.why cant i say ” its not my job to fix the world thats the govts job ” like everyone else.i am alone and i have tried my best to close all the windows to the world so i dont see anyone cry,,i dont see anyones problems,,so i dont have to suffer and then be impulsed into helping them like its my own problem,but its not happening nothing is working,,i can even sense the persons emotions and what they are thinking and not saying from an SMS,,,imagine that,,i can even tell what they are thining in CHAT…its not gonna work,,,nothing is working i am tried and i am sad and i am alone..and i am scared of letting anyone come near me for fear of getting hurt and betrayed,,i have felt those emotions secondhand and i know how it feels..i dont want to feel them first hand..i cant even die for i feel what my mother will go through if i died.i cant even die becuase i worry about others might suffer..take a load of that,,
Anyone if yu have an idea whats wrong with me and what do i need to do to detach my self from these emotions and thoughts of the world,,i wud really appreciate,,and please answer ,,i dont know how long i can wait.
Yes i Music helps a little but its not a permanent solution i have to go to university,i meet people and everyone seems to have taken me as the go to guy for emotional help which doesnt help at all.:(
Thats exactly right Miles,,yu are getting what i am saying,,I am from Pakistan,,this might put you guys more in my situation.
I have tried my best,I have started Clubs,I have even tried to start a Public welfare NGO,but no one absolutely no one wants to do that kind of work here,,they think its useless and its unrealistic one has to feed his family or stuff like that,,no one has time to worry about others,,:( this drives me crazy,,i want to help but no one wants to help me help anyone.
Best answer:
Answer by Breezy
Sweetie no offense but you might need to get some therapy, that kind of thing can take a serious toll on your health and the way you act from now on. I know some people are quick to say, “I’m not crazy so I don’t need a therapist!” but getting a therapist does not make you crazy it just means that you have a certain issue that you need to get straightened out so you can live better and happily. And you definitely have an issue with empathy so please, get some help.
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