Am I making the right decision? I want nothing to do with him because of porn?
Question by jenny: Am I making the right decision? I want nothing to do with him because of porn?
A year ago my BF told me he’d stop looking at porn, out of respect for me, because you know, with me, why would he need to look at other naked chicks? Now I DON’T find porn disgusting. I get it, guy thing, sometimes a girl thing too. But he did out of consideration just make a really sweetheart promise to me.
Every time we fight about anything he constantly reassures me “i have NEVER looked at any other girl but you. you know this.”
But last night I was using his computer and on the address bar was a porn site. It confused me, more than anything. I saw in his history he visited random sex videos nearly every night–he doesn’t even talk to me every night..
Afterwords we made up by just watching a movie and sleeping, everything was fine but..when I got home and he didn’t talk to me all day or night I started to think about how he never talked to me some nights (when I thought he was sleeping) and his history said he was on the porn sites.?!
How am I supposed to forgive him..not for looking at porn, but for never being there for me, and ESPECIALLY for the lying? Am I wrong to be hurt? For once I feel like this isn’t something *I* started. I don’t doubt he loves me and I get that porn is normal but WHY why why lie when I’d be cool with it. He never apologized or acknowledged the constant BS lie he gave me so many times. I feel like I can’t trust what he says anymore!
I JUST said I had no problem with porn, hell I’ve watched it with him.. but why would he lie about it for a year then?
I don’t know Ted, we’ve been together for years so we’re so open with each other. I know I’m into way more messed up stuff than he is.
But thanks soo much for the answers you guys, I can’t even pick a best one.
I told him that it’s not porn but denial and lying that hurts me so much but he just went crazy mad about how I keep talking shit and he started calling me a whore. WTF? Why can’t he just admit it or apologize? He’s coming up with random crap about me and saying he’s going to kill himself now. I just wanted him to own up to lying. Why is he STILL doing this??
Best answer:
Answer by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
You are making a big deal out of this. It is just porn. It’s not like he is going out and cheating on you. I let my husband watch it whenever he wants. He also has no problem with me watching it. We just chose not to watch porn so much. Maybe once every 2 months or so. But even if he watched it everyday, I would not have a problem.
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