Can you dedicated parents out there answer this question?

Question by : Can you dedicated parents out there answer this question?
Please take this question seriously since I need this information to clear my mind. I am a sophomore in college and my GPA is 2.0. I know I can do better but my thoughts are ALL messed up and this is why.

My mother has 3 kids with 3 different men (including me) and my dad has 3 kids with 3 different women (including me). What bothers me is that I don’t know if my mom is a whore and if my dad is a womanizer. I am not to concerned about my dad because it is normal for a black man to sleep around. But in my mom’s case it gets kind of confusing since she seems to be a wise woman. She is really smart since she has a degree so I have NO idea as to how she let those no good men trick her into having unprotected sex and then leaving her with the baby. I could have understood if it happened once or twice, but three kids with three different men is kind of crazy……But then again having a degree doesn’t give you common sense.
So its either she is not that smart or she just loves unprotected sex……sad to say
Well she didn’t take care of any us because she believes that if the father doesn’t help then she shouldn’t take care of the kids either, I have no idea where obtained that concept. I only lived with her for about 2 years during my entire life, all of sudden she starts calling me and acting nice. She wants me to help her and my little brother with groceries every month (I have never met my little brother before by the way, I just know about him)……So do you think my mom is acting nice just for that favor or does she really love me now that she came to her senses??? She seems like she has changed since she didn’t give her last child away like she did to me and my sister

Well my father just doesn’t give a damn, he still has sex with random women and has no shame. I already came to the conclusion that he will never change. I will have to lie to my kids about their grandfather, I will never tell my kids what their grandfather is really like.

So as you can see I never had a family and I never really had a place I could call home since I lived in foster homes most of my life. I try not to let the past bother me but it always comes back up when my mother decides to call me and act nice. It also bothers me when i see all the college students going home for the summer break, I wish I could do that….I would give anything for a family.

It gets really lonely when you stay in a dorm room with no one to talk to and no one to visit. Sometimes I feel like dropping out of school because a degree will only get me a job, it will never make me happy. Money could never buy me a new mother or father

So to all the dedicate parents out there…..Why do parents leave their kids behind and not take care of them???? That question really bothers me and I need an answer that would motivate me and keep me pushing towards a better HAPPY life. It just makes no sense to me, I could never see myself not taking care of MY baby….what can be more important than that?????

I don’t even know what to think anymore….maybe God wanted it to be this way for me….It sucks that he picked me though because I am not handling it well

Also I need some tips about how to be happy without a family. I usually go to movies by myself but that gets really boring fast….Maybe I should join the military and make some close friends there……I just want to feel like I belong (a lot of you may not know what that means since you were born into a loving home and have loving friends)

I am 21 by the way (just thought you all would want to know my age)

Best answer:

Answer by jen
I’m 25 and almost same lifestyle as yours when I was a child…

I have learned that my parents were VERY SELFISH.
I also learned I needed to break that cycle for my own children. They deserve to have a home where their parents love each other and respect each other..

hope it helps a little bit…

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