Does this make sense?
Question by Char: Does this make sense?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for a little over a year. A month ago he told me that I was one step away from being his wife. Now he tells me that he’s not happy and there is no spark and that he feels the relationship has been dying. He and I have both been under stress and I feel that he and I have both been depressed. In the beginning of October, my father asked him what his intentions were with me, we’re both old fashion Italian so you get the point…
A couple of weeks ago, he went out with his single friend who cheats on his girl. I went out with my friend to catch the Yankee v. Texas game. My friend wanted to cut the evening short so after dropping her off at home, I showed up at the bar where I thought he might be (he didn’t tell me where he was going earlier that night, probably because he didn’t know.) I saw him talking to a girl at a table just the two of them and I saw her hands on his lap. He claims that she was going to teach him Salsa dancing (yeah right). But he also claims that he was just talking to her and nothing else. Why were her hands on his lap? She was leaning into him like she was going to kiss him.
He now claims that I was following him. I wasn’t. I wasn’t ready to punch out for the evening so I told him that I wanted another drink so I had a feeling were he’d be and that I didn’t want to go to a bar by myself. He doesn’t believe me.
He now wants me to move out and I’ve been unemployed for a year and going to school full-time and I can’t find a job. I’ve been packing to move and I’ve moved a lot of my belongings out.
He’s been nice towards me though. He broke up with me. I found a different girl’s number in his phone. He denies speaking to any other girls. Now the number is no longer in his phone. He’s still making sure that I have food in my belly and taking care of me as if we were still together. We’re just not going out on dates. He’s sleeping in the same bed as me, whereas before when we’ve had nasty arguments that he wants me out, he gets out the air mattress but not this time. Then last night, he was smiling at me as usual and joking around with me, we watched a scary movie together and even saying good night which had stopped for a while.
Do I have an unstable person on my hands?
Also, he’s 50 years old so please don’t say he might have gotten cold feet. At 50, he should know what he wants!
Best answer:
Answer by abby
of course hes unstable. forget about this guy, itd be good for you.
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