Help on family annoyances and traits.?
Question by Mintyesse: Help on family annoyances and traits.?
To begin, I have four brothers and parents, who are still together. No one drink or uses drugs either. The two oldest are out of the house and I have one older and one younger brother left. My little brother is twelve.
To get straight to the point I get no respect from my little brother, at all. When we get into arguments I try to stay civilized and on the main subject while he goes off about the past screaming. Then our mother enters the picture, but goes straight with his side rather then listening to what I have to say. Not like it would really matter anyways since she doesn’t listen and think about what I do say. She actually takes offense to it somehow. Since I’m the older sister I have to watch what I say and do, of course, but when he says something wrong or does something rude my mother blames it on me. I can’t do anything about it.
Lately I’ve noticed its been getting worse. I’ve stopped trying to say things like “Mother, your not helping.” or something to that fact. She lectures me on how I do things and creates a scene that makes me feel like I’m in a cheesy movie. Does that make sense? I’m just blabbering on so excuse me for that.
The main thing is, I believe, my Mother and brother don’t have any respect for themselves and show none to others. I don’t want to be like that since it’s hurt me enough both physically and mentally.
I wanted to know if there is a way I can change this, is there?
Thank you for your time.
Best answer:
Answer by NICK
I’d like to say that in my experience, there’s two kinds of people who lack proper respect for others:the arrogant ones and the selfish ones. However, what I see in your case is a stereotypical egocentric little kid and a mother who obviously favors said kid over you. In her head, the situation’s probably just a little kid who doesn’t know any better and a troubled older sister or something. She probably doesn’t even realize the disrespect that you receive because of this. But, then again, she could have already thought about that and just refuses to accept it out of the old arrogant thinking that parents are mentally superior to youngsters like us.
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