ok, i need some help from someone who knows some first date tips…?
Question by claptonfan13: ok, i need some help from someone who knows some first date tips…?
ok, i finally got the girl that ive tried for all year. she has never had a boyfriend before, and odviously never a first kiss, but she is 15. i am only 13, and her mother and her mom’s boyfriend are going to see “drag me to hell” and, because she doesnt like scary movies, were seeing “night at the museum”. well, i dont know, she seems to have high expectations… were going next weekend, and shes tellin me like what shes gunna wear, she told me that the “theater is cold, and to bring a jacket” and she said “you might get tired, feel free to stretch”. ok she just took 2 of my 3 aces right outta my sleeves. theatres arent cold in GA, she wants 2 borrow my jacket. and she wants me to do the classic “arm strech, arm around her” thing. the other ace i got is my guitar, which i think shes tryin 2 get me to play for her,which i intend to. well, how do i pull off a “wow” if she keeps guessing my moves and pretty much asking for them. so i guess my question is, is there anyone who can give a 13 year old some advice? im a guitarist and poet, and ive written for her before. im not much of a physical guy, though im in shape, i dont work out. any girls that can share stuff that a guy would do at the movies that would make it great, or are there any guys that would share some moves? im kinda a one trick pony, and she keeps takin my tricks, but i want this to be special for her. ive been around the block, but ive never meet one like this. shes great, and i really think this is true love. can anyone help?
oh yeah, amy’s comment reminded me. yes, i have been “around the block” and it wasnt completely voluntary on my part, but i didnt have a problem with her. and that was a year ago. im not 14, but in 2 weeks i will be, and it isnt my 1st date, or my 1st kiss, but hers, so im tryin 2 take it slow for her, but thats kinda hard. any other advice?
Best answer:
Answer by Amy
You’ve been around the block, eh? at 13? lol. Well have fun with it anyway!
Dress nicely. Tell her she looks beautiful almost as soon as you see her. Offer to buy her whatever she wants at the concession stand. Hold her hand during the movie if it seems right. Be a gentleman.
Playing guitar is a win if it fits into the parameters of the date, but only if you are any good at it.
Don’t, under any circumstances, stick your tongue in her mouth. That is not a first date thing, especially at your age (trust me).
Call her the next day.
Consider seeing Star Trek instead! (it’s fun)
EDIT:
Sorry to hear about the ‘not totally voluntary’ part of your history. That is more common with boys, especially young boys, and more unfortunate than many people think. Make sure you accept your real feelings about it, whatever they are, and stand up for them. That allows others to do the same.
Definitely take it slow with this new girl, for you as well as for her. You are really young and have lots and lots of time! Get to know each other.
Girls like a guy who is sweet to them, but has a little edge and a healthy amount of independence. They want to feel like the best guy out there has eyes for them. So be confident.
When you are not watching the movie, engage her in conversation. Get to know what she thinks and also tell her something she hasn’t heard before (a subject you know about, information about you, etc). Don’t get over-personal on a first date, but don’t be standoffish or generic either.
Play up your good points, but try not to brag. For example, if you do well in school, talk to her about the things you like about certain subjects without saying how you get all As. If you do well in sports, talk about the game you last played but don’t focus on how awesome you are. Pay attention to her reactions. If she looks like she doesn’t care, move on to something else or ask her what she likes.
Get to know her family! Talk to her parents. Make a good impression on them by using your best manners and not being afraid to chat politely with them. This is important because their opinion of you will likely influence her opinion. If she gets on well with her family, she will want their approval.
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