Q&A: Dating 101: How to tell if a guy is cheating. Lol, really now?
Question by Cole: Dating 101: How to tell if a guy is cheating. Lol, really now?
Here’s another article I found linked off the front page of Yahoo that makes me sad for men everywhere. It’s no wonder women have a hard time finding the right guy with “tips” like this on the net so readily available for them to pick through everyday. Here we go:
“1. He’s superprotective of his gadgets. “The main way that trysts are found out is through the discovery of incriminating emails, IM chats, cell phone texts or bills,” says Belisa Vranich, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. So if he’s being unfaithful, he may guard his gadgets or act really defensive when you innocently touch his phone or computer. It should be a giant red flag if he readily gave you passwords in the past, and now he’s more evasive.”
Women don’t innocently touch anything. That is a myth. Everything has a purpose, a deeper meaning, an ulterior motive for women. They are suspiscious by nature, and they LOVE finding fault whenever they can, even if they have no proof. Do you wanna know why I don’t like you snooping around on my computer or checking my text history on my cell phone? It’s because you’re showing that you don’t trust me. Oh but suddenly because I’m annoyed, it’s perfectly okay for you to accuse me of hiding something. I’ve got two words for you. **** you. I’m entitled to my privacy just as much as you are, and don’t you even dare try to tell me that **** wouldn’t hit the fan if I tried checking your personal information, too.
“2. He steps up the grooming. This is so obvious, but it’s a sign many women miss: “If your man starts grooming more without you requesting it, that could be an indication that he’s getting intimate with someone else,” says Vranich. You can actually thank modern mass media for this tipoff. Guys today are used to viewing manscaped dudes onscreen, so if he has another chick to impress with his appearance, he may emulate those ultra-trimmed guys. Another clue: He’s spending more time at the gym.”
“Manscaped dudes.” What time frame was this article written? I dunno about you, but the only thing I’m seeing in theaters recently is gritty manly men. You know, like the ones you’ll see in movies made for men. Whatever, that’s not the point. The point is, shut up you paranoid, delusional, man hater. Heaven forbid a man step up his hygiene and try to get back into shape again. Maybe he’s trying to raise up that self-esteem you’ve been slowly chipping away at for the last seven years. Ever think of that? Probably not, because you’ve been too busy plotting how to test his love for you by sleeping with other men and seeing if he gets angry.
“3. He smells different. “When he comes home, if he doesn’t smell the same as he did in the morning, and it isn’t the scent of soap in the gym or at your home, it may be because he’s showered at her place,” offers Vranich. So pay attention, because in this case, that old saying “the nose knows” might very well be true.”
I’m more than aware that women appreciate smells more than men do. Hell, it’s been pointed out to me many times that they like how I smell, but you try going to work for nine hours or more a day and see if you don’t come home smelling different. By the way, who honestly keeps track of the soap their man uses by smelling them every night? (Especially when we’re talking about soap at a gym for christ sakes.) This is probably the dumbest tip I’ve ever heard in my life. If you’re really so paranoid that your man is cheating that you’re getting a whiff of his scent every night when he comes home, leave now. Just do it.
“4. Nothing fazes him anymore. “If he was short-tempered before, a combination of added intimacy and attention could be making him way more relaxed, even downright giddy,” Vranich says. Adds Mira Kirshenbaum, author of “When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships”: ”
If your guy is suddenly going around all happy and whistling, then you need to find out why.”
Wow what is wrong with you, woman? Can I not even be happy without you getting angry at me? That’s it, I’m leaving. You have no right being with someone as awesome as me if all you’re going to do is *****.
“5. He becomes suspicious of you. “If he’s normally a mellow type, all of a sudden he may want to know where you are all the time and with whom,” says Vranich. “It’s the result of him realizing that if he’s cheating and it’s not that hard, you might also be getting away with it.” Also, beware of extremely detailed responses to even your most innocent “How was work today?” queries. He may be preparing epic answers because he’s terrified of getting caught.”
Hey guess what, geniuses. This one is a double-edged sword. After all the snooping around in my business that you’ve been doing, I would be dumb not to start wondering how loyal you are. Honestly though, I’m smart enough to leave before it gets to this point, so this would never be a problem for me. Point is, this is yet another really stupid tip
Point is, this is yet another really stupid tip that doesn’t prove anything.
“One caveat: If your romantic life hasn’t fallen off, that’s no guarantee that he’s faithful. “It’s a serious mistake to think that affairs are necessarily physical. He may just be unhappy in other parts of the relationship,” says Kirshenbaum. In fact, an illicit relationship could even stoke his lust for you.”
You know, “One caveat” almost sounds like you’re trying too hard to sound like you know what you’re talking about. You could just say, “Oh, and one more thing”, or I dunno, “6” maybe? So basically what you’re saying is ultimately stay paranoid that your man is a cheating bastard and get ready to divorce him at the first sign of trouble. Thanks. As if Lifetime doesn’t screw with the enough weak-minded women that can’t think for themselves, now there’s front page articles on Yahoo adding more reasons for men to want to kill themselves.
Ladies, I’m on my knees right now. Don’t read this trash. These dating articles on the front page of Yahoo are not going to help anyone. If you really think your man is cheating on you, talk to him directly about it. Tell him you’re having doubts. Do that thing where…um, what’s the word for when people talk to one another directly instead of playing head games? Oh wait, communicate. There we go.
If you’re really in a loving relationship that is going to last, he’ll talk with you. It’ll be good to get it out there, and I’m sure you’ll feel a lot better later. If he refuses to talk about it, then chances are he may actually be cheating on you. Regardless, if he’s unwilling to have a civil conversation about your relationship that you’re scared is about to die, then he’s not really the person you need to be with anyway.
So now I ask my question. Really? Who really agrees with the article?
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