Q&A: Why is nothing I do ever good enough for my parents?
Question by Jake (AKA Captain Crash): Why is nothing I do ever good enough for my parents?
My dad can’t stand me. He is always putting me down or ignoring me. There are times when I’ve talked for ages about something, and he isn’t looking. There are important things that he doesn’t listen to, and I’ve recently started to simply not repeat myself.
I’m a writer, and he hardly ever reads any of my work. Currently, I’m writing a script for a funny little short film, and he is actually mad at me because one of the comedy scenes involves me falling off the porch.
He thinks I’m a wuss, since I’m arachnophobic. He gets mad at me whenever I flip out when there’s a spider on me. I mean he gets mad and comes at me. He is considering taking away the motorcycle because he’s honestly worried that I will get a spider on me and jump off. He’s not joking at all. He’s seriously afraid of that. And it’s not that I’ll get hurt that he’s afraid of- he just doesn’t want his insurance to go sky high. He’s not joking. At least, he says he’s not, and it’s very convincing.
Whenever I wanna do some kind of project with him, he freaks out and gets violent. I wanted to fix a motorcycle. He never would help at all, and now, two years later, I’ve sold it. I wanted to build a raft. I asked him for help, and he gave none. So I had my friend help me. We almost finished it, and him and my uncle burnt it right before we were done. After that, I wanted to fix up an old car of his that’s just sitting around rusting. He started to get irate and said I couldn’t touch it. He is very controlling with his, so I wanted my own, so I got another motorcycle that needs work. He refuses to help me. When he’s getting in the car to go home, I would ask him if we could work the next day. So he’s dragged me down the street with his car several times. I mean, the door was open, I was standing by it, and he started backing up, and turning towards me. I couldn’t get out of the way without being pulled under, and he was yelling at me for it. If I had tripped, that wouldn’t have been fun. Being hit by the car is a regular occurance for me. Mom just stands by and lets this happen. I will aske her why, and she says she doesn’t feel like getting yelled at by him. I think she’s bipolar, since some days she’s nice and happy, and other days she is cussing and screaming and threatening me. I feel as though I’m worthless to them. It seems like the only times I feel truly happy are when I’m with my friends, or riding my bicycle or the motorcycle.
What can I do in my situation? And don’t say call Child Protective Services, either. Somebody I know did that once and somehow my mom got off the hook and I got in a worse predicament. They don’t physically abuse me that much anyway, and when they do, they don’t leave many marks.
Where do you get off calling me self centered?
And when I say he’s not looking, I mean he’s watching the TV, and if I ask if he heard me, he will go “huh?”
Best answer:
Answer by Dorian P
Jake trust me on this you are not alone. i am having somewhat of the same thing happening to me with my parents. now, I dont know you that well or even how old you are but let me explain to you something that i’ve learned. Depending on how your parent’s were brought up in their life they may feel that they have to implement some of what their parents taught them in your life because they don’t feel that your childhood should be any better than theirs! Now im 21. i moved to San Diego October 23rd, 2006 and been living out here ever since. Prior to the move, my parents had a hold on me until i was 18 years old and an opportunity presented itself and i jumped on it. My father thinks im going to be a failure in life. ever since i was little, he always gave me the impression that i was going to either be a bum out on the streets, or be nothing in life. he feels that i have to prove myself to him and that’s where i believe he is wrong. Jake the point is that maybe your dad is thinking of you as a failure. or He doesn’t fully trust you in which case i think you should sit down and have a serious conversation with him letting him know how you feel and how he’s been talking to you. Don’t be so closed mouthed about this because it could scar you for the rest of your life.
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