Should I continue to watch adult movies with my girlfriend?
Question by Super Jay: Should I continue to watch adult movies with my girlfriend?
She admitted that she had never seen an adult movie before. The first DVD we watched I bought for her at the adult bookstore is produced by Playgirl so it is marketed for women. That was last weekend. Now this weekend, I put on some other DVDs I had in my collection. She was a little curious to see what girls I liked. Then she started to become critical. She complained that the actors in the scenes looked ugly. We started fooling around, and I was getting turned on with the movie on and then we are together. She then said that what we have is love and that the movies were about sex. I told her that some of the actors and actresses are boyfriend and girlfriend and some of them are, in fact, married to each other. So there goes the stereotype of what adult movies are about. She kept arguing with me saying that she gets more turned on seeing a love scene in the movies in which the actors and actresses do not take off all their clothes or that if they do the camera doesn’t show all body parts and sexual activities in explicit detail.
She also said that she found it difficult to concentrate on making love with the movie going on. I did keep looking over her shoulder to check out the actress in the movie. She said she didn’t mind but I wonder when she makes comments like that. Dude, stop looking at that bimbo on TV and concentrate on me. They are not all bimbos. Some of the girls are former nurses, teachers and some of the girls later go back to get advanced degrees with the money they make in the industry. I could say that quite a few of the actresses later become lawyers after they retire from porn, but that may lead to an entirely new discussion. LOL!
I found that the movie I bought for my girlfriend, for me as a guy was kind of boring. The audio was all music and I couldn’t hear any noise making from the movie. I like it when the girl moans. My girlfriend said that when the actress moans loudly in the movie its gross. So I thought the Playgirl DVD was dull compared to my stuff but I got it for her.
Then while the movie is going on, my girlfriend took out a book she let me borrow called the Joy of Sex. It’s like 500 pages long. She told me to read it and tell me which positions I liked and we could try them. I read some of the book last night and even though there are photos included in the book, it reads like a text book. I have learned most of what I know from being with girlfriends and seeing different positions displayed in these movies. It is difficult to learn something that is about movement from a text book using words to describe it and a static photograph.
What should I do? I find that for me it helps sometimes to get the extra stimulation from watching an adult movie to get me in the mood and to bring me to a happy ending. But unless I go to the bookstore and buy some more female marketed DVDs, my girlfriend will probably not enjoy the movies as much as I do. And although she said she doesn’t mind that I look at the actresses in the movies, I got a sense that she seemed to be getting more critical of the movies with each DVD that I played. Jennifer Luv, Gauge, Aurora Snow. For some reason she seemed to be very critical when Aurora was on the screen. BTW, the actor that she thought had a nice body but an ugly face is Lee Stone.
Constructive criticism only. Please no feminist or moral majority comments to condemn me. I am asking a question and personal insults directed at me are not an answer. Thank you.
Photos for those of you who want to see what these people look like. No nude photos.
Aurora Snow
http://www.mademan.com/chickipedia/aurora-snow/photosgallery/Aurora_396-jpg.html
Gauge. No that guy in the photo is not me. I wish
http://www.flickr.com/photos/georgeisyourman/1728172244/
Jennifer Luv
Best answer:
Answer by Loopy Loo
Some women like porn others dont, I think your gf sounds like she does not, if you start to watch one with her and then start to make love, turn it off, then she wont feel she is being compared. Better not look over her shoulder – you should be concentrating on HER not the DVD. Hope it works out for you.
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