Should men pay for dates?
Question by Nicholas W: Should men pay for dates?
I have been dating this girl for about a month now and recently have stopped paying for her food/ entertainment. I tried to do it as unawkawardly as possible but she seems to have become offended, she even asked me why I have stopped paying for her and when I told her that I simply can’t afford it (I work at a very low paying job, she makes as much as i do) we got into quite an argument.
She argued that me not paying for her food makes it seem like she wasn’t “worth it” to me. I argued back that this was absolutely not the case and don’t see why me paying for her every meal/movie/etc make it seem like “its not worth it”. Furthermore I said that by her logic if she doesn’t pay for me does that mean that I’m not worth it to her? She ended the argument by saying that “its different because your a guy”.
I realize that many of you reading this will think that I’m a pretty big butt head for not paying for this girl’s meals and entertainment but I cant think of a good reason to pay for this girls meals.
Doesn’t men being expected to pay for women on dates undercut the women argument for equality?
If men pay for women’s dinner/movie wouldn’t it make a women feel more “indebted” to the man and thus doing things with (to) him for the wrong reasons (feeling like she owes him something.)
In a good relationship shouldn’t the both parties want to hang out with each other regardless of because someone is paying for them to be there?
Any other opinions on men being expected to pay for women on dates? I’m especially curious on how some women can reconcile the belief that men should pay for them on dates with the notion of “equal rights” for women. They seem to contrast each other.
Best answer:
Answer by Stephanie
Here is the best rule for that situation.. if you ask her out you pay, if she asks you out she pays that way it equals out.
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