The ride i didnt ever want to get on, my life?
Question by Mr.DB3: The ride i didnt ever want to get on, my life?
Order of events in my life so far this year HELP!!?
OK sit back get your popcorn and soon your going to be shaking your head telling me how damn dumb I am but to me, I have an obligation to my wife, She knows it she hides because of her choices and well you make the call. I will call this 101 WAYS NOT TO TRY & SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE……Story goes like this. I met my wife 6 1/2 years ago and from the second I lay eyes on her I knew she was to be my wife.. I seriously had seen her in my dreams for years. She and I were perfect. We completed each other and in our own special ways we were each others saviors. My wife had two beautiful little girls who were 1 and 4 years old. Her ex was always an a** and pretty much from day one I had me a very big responsibility. I had a great job, made about $ 90,000 year however I traveled all over the country. I ran a concrete construction crew. I was 28 when we met she was 26. She has a good job at $ 35000 so money never was an issue. Back in 06 I decided that my family was more important than traveling . I dove into the wonderful world of owning my own company. Its been good up until about two years ago, we bought a flip house to remodel and sell over the winter, Alright enough bull sh** long story short I was absent to busy working to get ahead, I became distant with my wife as she the same with me. we started to pay attention to each others faults instead of what we loved in each other. I see it now. Well we had reached a breaking point at the beginning of feb. She had enough and well I had also. However It didn’t take long for me to realize that being with her and the girls was more important than working all the time. She moved into the flip house and I couldn’t stop her. I tried everything, went to counseling they put me on Lexi pro I was doing everything I needed to make it work. She however just got more and more pissed and bitchy. I didn’t understand I was there to be a family I took all the blame for the way we were. Although she was just as bad, I didn’t care about the stupid small stuff any more. I was a wreck. I didn’t want her to go. Everyone kept telling me to let her go, she will get lonely she will come to you. I knew better. I saw it as she was already lonely, I worked all the time and was never home and if I did nothing like everyone said that was what she had figured. I knew she had no idea what I really turned into. I didn’t I had hit rock bottom. I found myself in my house my empty house a house I fely as if I built it just for them and now its empty and they are gone. I cry even today about it. About 12 days into it I could not get out of the deepest depression I had ever come to. I found myself sitting in my truck bawling for hours. I was serious need of help I looked to my wife for that. She was always there for me before. Now just a blank face telling me to go home and get some sleep. How could she be so cruel Total discount of what I had done for her and the girls. I started to see a fear develop in her out of no place, I had never touched her or ever even threatened her. Her mom was coaching her telling her all this crazy lifetime movie bull. I find out the Lexipro crap was going the wrong way for my brain it was making me sad not happy. She got a no-contact order, no assault ever, I had 3 violations by the time we went to court and the judge forced me into a consent no contact order if I didn’t I would have to do 21 days in jail. Oh there is so much more , duel no contact orders , jail for her more for me, stolen cars, doors getting kicked in, dog getting tazzer by cops, swat team, hospital, crooked lawyers nad bias judges . I have been screwed, All in all 54 days in jail for total 11 violations of which five I did. I am this close to going postal. My wife however told a friend of mine the other day that she has always loved me and will always, she never believed things would get so out of hand. She left because she didn’t feel I would ever change the way I had become. Sadly she is against a wall and so many people and family have been there supporting her. She said what know. She is a strong woman she would go without before she goes against her mother. The mother in law the reason it is what it is. I don’t understand
Best answer:
Answer by Shirin D
Leave her be and focus on yourself. Don’t call, don’t drop by, don’t write. Go after what makes you happy (besides her). Your hobbies, your family, your friends, your work.
Once you find a peace within you will be noticeably different to those around you, and if your wife and you are meant to be, she will find her way back to you as well. The time apart from you will be her best way to sort out her own feelings and decide whether she wants to make another effort with you.
Add your own answer in the comments!
