University: Making a decision that’s pretty important.?
Question by Nic: University: Making a decision that’s pretty important.?
Okay I’m in grade 10 so I have 3 more years to think this through.
But I still want what you guys would do.
So here was my original plan:
I’m half Japanese and half French-Canadian so I can speak Japanese, English and French fluently.
And I’m actually in love with everything Japanese. It may even be a problem lol.
Japanese food, furniture, music, movies, people, etc.
I was going to try to go to university in Japan. And rent a one room apartment.
But here’s what screwed me over.
I have very little friends (and I like to keep it that way, I’m the type who’d rather have few friends except really good friends then lots of friends and only have a couple okay friends). And they’re pretty much divided into groups lol.
*****If you don’t want to read a lot then skip the next 3 paragraphs. It’s just explanations.*****
Friends since I was little: 5 of us (including me) and we’re all really good friends. We were hanging out almost every week end, even every weekday. And we’d have potlucks, BBQs, parties, anything together. And the reason why we’re such good friends is because all 5 of us are half Japanese, our mothers are all friends and our fathers are all friends so it’s just a huge family friend relationship.
And there’s also some parents without kids and some with kids but the kids are younger so we’d only “play” at parties, potlucks, BBQs, etc.
But the 5 of us haven’t chilled in a long time. I did with one of them before school started but that was about it.
Third group. This is one of the big problems. 3 of us.
Us three are all half Japanese. We met in grade 1 at our local Japanese School. We were in the same class until grade 2, 3 or 4. One of us quit the school (learnt japanese at home) and me and the other one continued and he’s still in the same class. Although I was in the same class with one of them, I always thought he was annoying, immature and stupid (I know, it’s kinda mean). And the one who left was a really good friend of mine. Like a really good friend!. And we kept hanging out even though he quit. Just recently (like last year) I started to get use to the “annoying” one. And us three became amazing friends. (I still find him annoying and immature sometimes, but he’s a really cool guy when he’s “normal” lol) Either way, us three are really good friends and they’re friends I want to keep for my whole life.
This is my friends at school. It’s only 3 of us.
One of them is a geek and the other one use to smoke pot. I’ll start with the one who use to smoke pot. I use to hate him until grade 8. He was a real dick to me. But I don’t remember but something happened and we became really good friends. In grade 9, he was a freaking retard and smoked pot because. (he’s surrounded by people doing drugs.) And we got in a really big fight and I wasn’t talking to him for over 2 monthes. Then he started to do it almost every week end. But then I realized this isn’t good. He’s a really good friend. So I tried my best to make him stop. After a whole year, I finally got him to stop. Thank god! Overall, he’s a really good friend I can talk to him if I’m having problems and we have much in common.
I have one more group but I’m sure you guys are tired of reading about my friends >.> lol.
***REAL QUESTION STARTS HERE*** —-Me and my freaking long questions…sigh…—-
So returning to my original thing, my goal was to go to university in Japan. But one sleep over with my 3 half Japanese friends, we were talking about what university we would go to after grad.
They both said this university that’s fairly close to us. Different City though. And I said, a university in Japan.
Then one of my friends say: “dude you should come to ****** with us!! We need to be room mates!!”
and knowing us three like Japan very much, I said: “how about all three of us go to a university in Japan? It would be so much more fun”. Then their reply was: “Schools in Japan are really easy to get into but really hard to get out. I’d rather just go to ***** and move to Japan after university”.
So now I really don’t know what I should do.
Move far from my friends and go to a university in Japan. Where I’d buy a one room apartment (which I love lol) and make new friends there. I’d obviously still contact my friends though.
OR
Stay with my friends and go to a university that I don’t really want to go that much (but then again, I don’t know it that much). And become room mates with my old friends.
You see, it’s hard cause both schools are really good and I don’t really have a dream job. And I want to stay with my old friends and stay close with my other friends BUT I’d prefer live in Japan as a student.
What would you guys do? >< If you need more info (which Best answer:
Answer by mliang614@sbcglobal.net
First of all, SUPER LONG.
Second, I warn people against living with their best friends because they can turn into worst enemies. This has happened so many times with people around me. I didn’t want to risk it so I’m living in a studio apartment in downtown Berkeley and it is heaven!
Third, ask yourself which choice would you regret more if you didn’t go for it? Would leaving your friends behind be more regretful than not going to school in Japan?
I think you should live life the way you want to and not be pressured into things you don’t want because of other people, even if its people you care deeply about. Live it for yourself.
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