We were taking it fast but now we want to fix our mistake by taking it slow, will this ruin the relationship?

Question by blonde brunette: We were taking it fast but now we want to fix our mistake by taking it slow, will this ruin the relationship?
Me and my boyfriend of 3 months, are both 15 when we started dating we were taking it really slow like, extremely slow, like id hug him once a day and wed talk, but that’s it. Then one night after we’d been doing this for a month, we were watching a movie at my friend’s house with her and her boyfriend and we sorta cuddled, no not cuddling we pretty much layed on a bed and I let my right arm touch his left arm and same with the legs, and after that i cant even remember it went so fast, but now here we are 2 months later and he touches me, i still have my pants on when he does it but its still bad and to fast right? And i touch him inside his pants and underwear, pretty much i just run my hand back and forth on his penis when its bare. We’ve only been dating for three months its too fast, right? I told him I thought it was to fast, and he agreed and said that we should just stop and take a really big step back and stop doing the bad things pretty much just start over. But I love it when we do these things that were going to stop doing and start again in a while when we think its been long enough for it to be time for us to do these things again. I know he loves it to and does’nt want to stop and i think stopping is going to make him sad. Do you think it will do anything bad to the relationship? Is there a better way to fix it? Could we just pause, like we could still touch and stuff but nothing more, were we are and stay there for a really long time would that help or make it worse? Or should we just keep on going fast? I need help on how to fix this please help me I love this boy and want to be with him for a really long time, maybe forever. PLEASE HELP ME:(

Sorry if it does’nt make sense i tried my hardest to put my jumbled thoughts in order on paper.

Best answer:

Answer by Dani
ok…yes i believe its too fast…but most teenagers take things too fast now a days…and then it all usually goes downhill from there…so…here it goes…”pausing” as you suggested earlier…isnt a good idea…in theory it is…its the perfect solution…but…pausing is easier said than done…like a movie that you paused but then you accidentally sit on the remote and it unpauses…the same thing will most likely happen in your case…though you may think you both have amazing will power…even the strongest will power can cave unexpectedly…you may end up thinking…well…wat would it hurt to jus go a lil bit farther…and then…farther…and farther…so pausing isnt a good solution…stopping is…rewinding is…you said that he agrees with you…and yes you both may love the feelings you get but…in most relationships they last longer and are happier if the couples take things slow…cuz trust me if you go too fast the excitement of the realionship tends to go jus as fast…then…disapears…so you both may be sad about taking a step back…but it will most likely make you guys stronger an make your relationship last longer if you do this

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