Is my sense of humor immature for my age? (20 yrs old)?
Question by Anonymous: Is my sense of humor immature for my age? (20 yrs old)?
I’ve been wondering this a lot lately. When I was a kid, because of the environment I grew up in, I was never really allowed to express my personality so I retreated within myself and became ashamed and embarrassed of who I was like I was in someway “bad” or “wrong.” My parents never accepted me and neither did my peers. I finally gave up on trying to socialize by the time I was around 9 or 10. Ever since, I have sat in the corner at school and have never really talked much. I got so suppressed/repressed that now I am at the point where I am not even sure who I am anymore. Everyone around me just assumed I was shy. I was always very depressed for having to suppress myself. And now I am 20 years old and tired of being depressed and tired of suppressing the real me.
I still haven’t been able to express it fully but from what I feel inside, I can tell you that my true personality is very spontaneous and random. I can be very hyper but at the same time, can value my peace and quiet sometimes preferring to sit and ponder. I am the type of person that would always be smiling and who would skip about and sing because I felt like it or talk with a British accent to my cat because I was feeling whimsical at that moment and wanted to. Or burst out laughing out of the blue for the hell of it and then smile creepily at the passerby because Im bored ha! :p Needless to say, my sense of humor is a bit absurd. I find humor in ridiculous things. I’m also a bit sarcastic, but not overly so. My sarcasm isn’t a mean sarcasm directed at others, but more making fun of myself or the absurdity of life situations.
I finally decided to show some of my true self to my friends…. they didn’t take it well. Pretty much all of them have… what I would call “academic sarcasm” as their sense of humor with varying degrees of black/dark humor. They are all very witty and sharp and can bite back with witty comments in the instant. I also have another group of friends who can be random but have a very academic nerdy sense of humor. But I can’t relate to that either because it’s too… well, nerdy. Anyway, I can get along with both groups of friends because we can engage each other in intellectual conversations. But when it comes to their humor, to be honest, I have never really found it funny. Some of the sarcasm I find funny, but most of the time I sit quietly and pretend to laugh at the appropriate times while just trying to stay pretty even tempered (not hyper, not random) and be agreeable to the people around me so I don’t piss anyone off. When I did try being myself, my good friend got really pissed off and told me to shut up because I was going too far. (I was making fun of the faun in the Narnia movie… and I started this whole perverted Mr. Tumnus thing… talking with a fake british accent and making dirty jokes). They didn’t play along or make it fun. They just looked annoyed and were like “Stop, it’s really not funny.”
My friend has a theory. She thinks my sense of humor is I quote “a ditzy, goofy” sense of humor but its a little below my age group and our “level.” That because I wasn’t able to express myself as a child, my sense of humor never really progressed to the more age appropriate goofy sense of humor. She said there is that type of “goofy humor” in our age group (20-30), but there is a more age appropriate version of it I could be using. She said I would have been really popular had I expressed myself in middle school but now everyone is past that humor.
I’m not sure what to think of this. Do I just have a different sense of humor than the groups of people I am hanging out with or am I really just immature for my age?
As far as I know I am not autistic or anything like that. I’m in college, have a part time job, doing well in life, have goals for my future…… just depressed I have to suppress and hide my personality since it doesn’t seem to be acceptable to this society :/
Best answer:
Answer by andrew b
i have a buddy he(trust me) acts 10x goofier then you……hes one of my best buds he will never let you stop laughing….get some new friends who enjoy you, just dont go over the top it can get a bit annoying when the time to be serious comes be serious, other then that act a fool
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