How to get the guy? Date advice, Tips, tricks, Flirting Techniques?
Question by lilmissvix17: How to get the guy? Date advice, Tips, tricks, Flirting Techniques?
Hey okay SOOOO lets cut to the chase
Met a guy, he had a HUGE party at his house, i went with some friends, I ended up dancing with him about 4 times. definitely flirty
then about a week later he texts me and asks if when he gets back in town, if i wanted to go see a movie with him. I said YES of course, so hes gone for 2 weeks without contact.
Before he left, I mentioned my friends big “sweet 16” birthday party/dance and he asked if he should go, I said YES WITH ME! and he said hed love to, and thanks for inviting him. SO he just recently broke up with his longtime girlfriend (were both about 16/17 btw) and hes been majorly on the rebound but i am starting to think hes getting over it.
The movies will be my first REAL date. and I REALLY NEED TIPS and help on what to do, how to act, etc.
The party, I think I can handle. I just REALLY want to impress him. I want to show him im not your average skanky girl that is just all over him. I want him to know I am genuine.
HELP!?!?! guys or girls advice would be great!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!
also, Do i kiss him on the 1st date? or wait? what would be appropriate? I will probly WANT to kiss him, but I dont want to mess it up and make him think im an easy girl cause I am SOOO totally not.
THANKS AGAIN…
Best answer:
Answer by Professor Farnsworth
Very easy situation. Though personally, I don’t think you should go to the movies with him for a first date. I think you should ask him to take somewhere else where you could really bond and talk to each other. When you’re at the movies, you obviously can’t talk to each other, so it really much of a first date. Maybe movie dates in the future, but try going to the beach or what not as a first. The park is even better than a movie.
But here are the tips you’ve asked for.
#1: Don’t be negative about dating. Why should a man pursue someone who isn’t happy? It’s ineffective manhandling to dump your dating disappointments on bachelor No. 3.
Romance Rule: Be a romantic challenge, not a mental health challenge.
#2: Don’t get tipsy. Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you possibly observe him and decide if he’s remotely right for you?
Romantic Rule: Always stay sober enough to remember how naughty you were the night before!
#3: Don’t talk badly about your exes. I don’t care if he cheated on you with your sister, don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded.
Romantic Rule: We all have baggage. Keep it in the closet on first dates.
#4: Don’t spook your suitor. Now is not the time to point out your physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually do something about them, and not to men who will now be forced to lie to you if they possess good manners.
Romantic Rule: Confidence is sexy! Sometimes, thoughts are for the inside.
#5: Don’t talk about your personal pet peeves. Although your therapist might get butterflies inside when you talk about how traumatized you are by the staggering number of germs that thrive in public restrooms, the typical male will be horrified. You’ll have violated the sacred air space of “romantic quality time” and these little monologues of strange pain will be as off-putting as if you started sorting unwashed laundry in a restaurant.
Romantic Rule: You already know all about you. Keep your problems to yourself and get to know him.
#6: Don’t chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.
Romantic Rule: When men chase you, they’re much less likely to fly away.
#7: Don’t keep squawking.
“Don’t feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter.”
If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic, just let it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant pause, “Come here and kiss me!”
Romantic Rule: Remember, sometimes less conversation really is more.
#8: Learn how to leave. Anyone can be pleasant when they’re enjoying themselves, but the true test of character is how one behaves when terribly bored, or worse, treated shabbily. There’s nothing to be gained by suffering through a terrible date, so if you’re having an awful time, depart quickly and gracefully, without being rude. When you’re itching to leave, say: “Thank you so much for meeting me. I think it’s time for me to go on home, Jerome. (Smile) Take care.” Extend your hand for a quick shake, swiftly turn on your heel and depart.
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