My fiance’s X-wife want to control how I relate to kids….?

Question by Kaybee: My fiance’s X-wife want to control how I relate to kids….?
I understand mom being concerned for her children, who they are with… but she disapproves of everything I do or say to the kids.

She doesn’t like Pancakes or French Toast on Sunday mornings…. too much sugar.

She doesn’t like me helping with homework…. but makes a big deal if it’s not done if the kids are at our house for the weekend.

We’re only allowed to watch certain types of movies and we can’t say certain words, like “retard”, “dummy” “butt-head” etc. (all relatively minor to me).

I’m trying to respect her wishes…. but I feel she is unrealistic and unreasonable.

I don’t butt-in with discipline or schedules …in fact, I don’t interact with her at all. I let the kids dad deal with her.

The kids are 14, 13,11 and 9- three boys one girl.

Why is she doing this?

Best answer:

Answer by Katie
She is probably acting like that because she is upset that you are “taking her place”. Even if that’s not what you are doing, that’s how it seems to her. Have your husband sit down and have a talk with her. Explain that when they are at her house, they do things a certain way. When they are at your house, they do things your way. Simple as that. The kids are old enough to understand that things are different at daddy’s then they are at mommy’s. It was the same when I was growing up. Mom’s house we did “this”, but at dad’s house we did “that”.

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