Step Daughter makes hostile remarks, out of the blue many times. How does one reply to this?

Question by Jackie: Step Daughter makes hostile remarks, out of the blue many times. How does one reply to this?
I’m talking to my 11 yr old step-daughter about for example pets. She says things like “If I had a dog I would beat him every day” or if I’m talking to her about a movie that I’d like to see (ANY MOVIE even one that she originally said she liked) she says “I won’t look at it if you get it!” Sometimes we will be spending time together at the mall or out to eat and out of the blue she says, “When I go back home to visit my mom I’m going to forget all about you”. Is this just pre-teen attention seeking even if it’s negative attention? Is she just being a little b!$ ch or what? Also how would you reply to this? Just ignore it? Admonish her or what?
FYI her parents split when she was 1 yrs old. I met her father 3 yrs later. Also “Teresa” you may be right. I’m not a good step mom. I’m shipping her to you tommorrow COD I’m sure you’ll be much better for her (disgusted eye roll). Johnny Sunday’s I think you are onto something BIGTIME! I’ve noticed that she seems to get some kind of little buzz out of it when I react to outrageous remarks.

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Answer by amosunknown
She’s going through the pain of a broken home. This is how children deal with it. They blame the person who they think is the cause of the problem. Her parents, you… the ones who were supposed to provide her with consistancy and a happy home couldnt. NOw she has a mom who’s else where, and a dad who’s with a different woman.

Even if it was years ago that this situation came about, she can still be waiting until now to act it out.

She needs therapy, and understanding. And someone to help you know when and how to correct her behavior. but the bahavior cant be fixed until the pain she’s suffering with is delt with.

I suggest you all get cousiling together.

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